Bexley woman commemorates mother ten years after she was killed in Beckenham

PUBLISHED: 12:00 02 May 2014

Terrie Grinham is hosting The Pink Tie & Diamonds charity ball at the Selsdon Park Hotel in Sanderstead.

Terrie Grinham is hosting The Pink Tie & Diamonds charity ball at the Selsdon Park Hotel in Sanderstead.


A woman who lost her mother after she was killed by an abusive partner is holding a charity ball to raise money for a charity working to end domestic abuse against women and children.

Terrie Grinham, 28, who now lives in Sidcup, has organised a fundraiser for charity Women’s Aid after her mother was murdered by an abusive partner in Beckenham’s Liberal Club.

Christina Murray was strangled to death by Raymond Bennett ten years ago.

“I lost my mum in 2004. It was a very short term partner, it wasn’t our dad, it was a man she met at the place where she was killed,” Terrie said.

Terrie explained that it had been a bit of a “whirlwind romance”. It sadly ended in tragedy.

“A lot went on in that time, including an engagement,” she said.

“My mum got to know the not so nice sides of his character.

“She did what most people would do and broke off the engagement. Two days after she gave back his ring he went into her place of work and there was an altercation.”

It was that day which changed everything for Terrie, who was 18 at the time, and her sisters Carly and Lisa.

Terrie explained that Bennett would be eligible for parole in 2016 but may not actually get it.

“Fingers crossed he won’t,” she said.

Terrie has poured her energy into campaigning for charity Women’s Aid, to help other women who may be in abusive relationships and prevent them from going through the same tragedy as she did.

Her next project will be the “Pink Tie and Diamonds Ball” which will be held at the Selsdon Park Hotel in Croydon on October 17.

The ball will commemorate her mother ten years on as well as raising funds for Women’s Aid to help others.

Terrie said there would be a red carpet on arrival, a three course sit down meal as well as an auction and live music performance from a band.

The ball has been sponsored by Heat Right Ltd, thanks to the support of her friend’s husband James Owlett.

“The chief executive of Women’s Aid is attending as well. She will be getting up to speak to people to tell them where their money is going,” Terrie said.

For more information about the ball please visit To find out more about Women’s aid visit

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